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Wisdom for the disappointments of life:
處理生活中挫折的智慧
讓你的心保持與神連結。這點一直都很重要，尤其是在經歷挫折的時間。詩篇的作者說：“耶和華靠近傷心的人”。神做工的方式，通常你當下很難識別或理解。挫折經常是預報神為你生命所安排的最美好季節即將來到。不要因爲沒有聽從神而錯過美好的季節。Keep your heart close to God. That’s important always, but especially during times of disappointment. The Psalmist said, “God is close to the brokenhearted.” God is most likely at work in ways you cannot presently see or understand. Often disappointment ushers in some of the greatest seasons of God for your life. Don’t miss it by not listening to Him.
等候你的情緒平息，再作重大決定。回想先知以利亞在艱難時期如何求死（王上19），然而神對他的生命與服事仍有偉大的計劃。在挫折的時間過後，我們傾向立刻作出不理性的決定。給自己一些時間，確認你作生活重大改變前已經重新審慎思考過。Wait for your emotions to heal before you make major decisions. Recall how the prophet Elijah was ready to die during a difficult period (1 Kings 19). Yet God still had great plans for his life and ministry. We tend to make irrational decisions immediately following times of disappointment. Let some time pass and make sure you are thinking rationally again before you implement major changes in your life.
不要停止做你知道能做的事。跟輕易做出重大決定有相同危險性的，是在下個機會到來或生活變得“容易些”之前，你傾向放棄或陷入動彈不得。你或許需要一段休息的時間，但是要讓你的手、腦繼續進行現在該作的事，不要完全閒下來。這有助於保守你的心與意念不被恐懼和疑惑攻擊。做事會使你保持活力與健康。好好吃、好好睡、好好運動！Don’t quit doing what you know to do. While you shouldn’t make major changes, an equally dangerous tendency to give up or stall until the next opportunity arrives or life gets “easier.” You may need a resting period, but keep your mind and hands busy doing what there is to do today. It will help protect your heart and mind from the attack of fears and doubts. And do things that keep you alive and healthy. Eat, sleep, exercise.
不要讓挫折決定你的自我價值感。大量讀大衛的詩篇（詩22、69、121是我最喜愛的其中幾篇），你會讀到他的絕望--然而當他想起神的慈愛與信實的時候，他便得恢復。恢復你作為神兒女的身份！你是被愛的。讓神與最認識你的人幫助你決定你的價值。你的價值是永存不朽的。是的，即便是在今日！你的價值無須被你的挫折來定義。Don’t allow a disappointment to determine your sense of self-worth. Read many of David’s Psalms (22, 69 and 121 are a few of my favorites) .You can read his despair—then as He reminds himself of God’s love and faithfulness, he is restored. Be restored to who you are as a child of God. Beloved. Let God and the people who know you best help determine your worth. It’s monumental worth. Yes, even today! You don’t have to be defined by your disappointment.
（留意你是否有陷入嚴重沮喪的跡象。像是退縮、持續的失望感、重度憂慮、厭食、負面的恐懼或思想等等。不要拒絕尋求專業的幫助。）(And be on the lookout for signs of severe depression. Things like withdrawal, constant feelings of despair, severe worry, not eating, dark fears or thoughts, etc. Don’t resist professional help.)
記住，你不是孤單的。即便你感受是如此。回到以利亞的故事，當時他無法看見，但是神已經為他預留了一大群幫助者。挫折是每個人生活經歷的一部分。也許有人經歷過相同類型的挫折。不要害怕去找他們，要讓他們陪伴你走過這段時間。（這不是你抽離教會團契的時間--這是尋找真實、給予生命的團契的時間）Remember, you are not alone. Even though it may feel that way. Back to the story of Elijah, he couldn’t see it at the time, but God had reserved an army of supporters for him. Disappointments are a part of everyone’s experience. There is likely someone who has experienced the same type of disappointment. Don’t be afraid to find them and let them walk through this period with you. (This is not a time to remove yourself from the church community—this is a time to find real, life-giving community.)
從這段時間中學習。沒有人喜歡接受挫折，然而絕大多數經歷挫折的人在那段時間學到許多生命最寶貴的功課。即使是失敗也可成為最佳老師。不要錯過這經歷帶來的益處。Learn everything you can from this period. No one welcomes disappointment, yet most who have experienced it learn some of life’s best lessons during those times. Even failure can be a great teacher. Don’t miss the value of experience.
當機會出現時要向前進。極多的人在經歷挫折期之後變得裹足不前，拒絕再向前進。活出豐盛需要冒險。重拾你的夢想！再次愛！最終，要順服神在你生命中的呼召，你必須重新行在信心中。如果你曾經希望脫離挫折的時刻--當對的時間來到，而你已經為你的損失或挫折充分哀傷過--回到正軌，繼續你的生活！Move forward when opportunity presents itself. Too many people become paralyzed after a period of disappointment, refusing to ever move forward again. Living an abundant life requires risk-taking. Dreaming again. Loving again. Ultimately, to be obedient to God’s call on your life, you will have to walk by faith again. If you ever hope to escape the moment of disappointment—when the time is right and you’ve grieved your loss or disappointment sufficiently—get on with life.
學習如何處理挫折會使你活出美好。最後，神會賦予你幫助他人度過挫折的恩典--如果你願意。Learning how to handle disappointments will make your life better. Eventually, God will—if you allow Him to—grant you the privilege of helping others who experience disappointment